Oh boy.....that was a real bomb he dropped on you, wasn't it? And he does this after all the sweet songs and nice apologies he dished up for you. And yes.....to answer your questions, yes...his brain is probably that damaged. And yes.....it seems that all alcoholics have the same "play book".
Ok. Breathe. Take a nice DEEP breathe and get ready to do some things for you and your children.
There are places that WILL help someone in your position. You may have to swallow a little pride but they will help. Use the internet to do a little research on Women's resources in your area. They may be able to offer you a place to stay for a while. They may be able to help you find a job. They may be able to help you with your interview wardrobe.
Your husband is playing the game that alcoholics play so well. They do whatever they can to try to control our emotional state. They pull our strings and keep us involved in their dance. It is a real shock to them when we cut the strings and stop the dance. They don't know how to act when they "lose" their control over us.
The position you are currently in may be the scariest thing you've ever experienced. But you WILL survive because you ARE a strong strong woman.
Please keep us posted. We are all here.....cheering you on.....offering our strength.....and wishing the very best for you and your children.
gentle hugs
Last edited by Kindeyes; 06-01-2008 at 03:35 PM.
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