I don't even know what to say, except that I sympathize with your situation. As an ACOA, the only thing I can relate to this, is when in 2001, my father invited me to come live with him, in a situation that I quickly regretted. I found an eviction notice on the door. I told him about it, and he shrugged it off, saying he wasn't being evicted.
Well, I had made other arrangements, but he was in fact evicted. And then I found out a couple of years later, that he was in active addiction (though he wasn't using at the apartment, so I didn't know).
But it made sense to me, his denial. I can't tell you how many times my family had been evicted when I was a teenager, the period of my parents usage. My mother, brothers, and I had to stay in a battered women's shelter, because my parents got us evicted. My mom lied, and got us in.
I can only imagine your pain, shame and fear. I don't know you, but I'll send a "virtual prayer" up for you and your kids. :ghug:praying