the eldest has anger problems, he doesn't live at home, infact lived with me for 4 months until last week when he went to stay at grans house, (grandad just died). the others arnt at home during the week as they are at a catholic school near (sister in laws ) her mams house so they stay there till the weekend when they come back, ive been to her home and seen her children living in not a nice environment and really feel for those kids.