I agree with everyone about your husband, he doesn't understand and that's ok he doesn't have to. After having similar experience with my wife I decided to keep the two separate. There are things I do for my recovery to stay sober and fighting with my wife isn't one of them. As much as I would like her to understand the things I am learning because I think they would benefit anyone it simply is not necessary. If our spouses have an opinion on people they have listened to in a meeting that's their deal based on their understanding. It is not our place to control them or their opinion.