Wow. I can see how you can be disappointed.
However, I think that we all understand each OTHER better than OTHERS understand US.
That's why we are all here at SR, supporting each other, and why programs like AA work so well.
It's not his fault that he doesn't "get it". He simply can't, IMHO.
I say, forget about it, and forgive him. He simply doesn't know.
And, think twice, or have a long conversation before having him go with you again. After you've cooled down, you may be able to discuss it and help him to understand.
Just my two cents.
Honu