Rose,
I know how you feel, I too have lost a good friendship.
But for me, it was when I got married two years ago. I had been a widowed at 33 years old and was single for 15 years. My dearest friend was also a widow that I had met 15 years ago. She was so much like me, the same age and she also had 3 kids, about the same ages as mine. We did everything together, including traveling a few times a year to exotic places, with and without the kids. She was my lifeline, and I was hers. We talked daily. We used to say we were like Thelma and Louise (without Brad Pitt)
When I got married, she was my only attendant.... When I said my vows to my husband about him being my best friend, I turned to her... and winked... we shared a special smile. Life was good.
Well, I can count on two hands the times we have seen each other in the past two years... and she only lives 10 minutes from my house. We have gotten together during that time... cried together about how things were for her now, she would try to explain to me how she felt. I had the life she wanted... I constantly reassured her that she was still my true female soul mate... But, nothing I did or said could bridge the now gap in our friendship.
Well, you may laugh
but Sober Recovery has helped me with this. My friend was the first thing I thought about every morning, and the last thing I thought about every night.... I was addicted to fixing this lost friendship.
I finally had to detach from my friend... pray for her... and give her over to my HP. I still call her (leave messages) send her cards... but thanks to SR, I am at peace over this.
People do come into your lives for different reasons, at different times, they help us for different reasons, and we help them.
This poem has helped me understand that, and cherish the friendship that we had.
I am not saying that your friendship is over, just something to ponder.
[CENTER]Some People
By Flavia Weedn
Some people come into our lives
and leave footprints on our hearts
and we are never ever the same.
Some people come into our lives
and quickly go...Some stay for a while
and embrace our silent dreams.
They help us become aware
of the delicate winds of hope...
and we discover within every human spirit
there are wings yearning to fly.
They help our hearts to see that
the only stairway to the stars
is woven with dreams...
and we find ourselves
unafraid to reach high.
They celebrate the true essence
of who we are...
and have faith in all
that we may become.
Some people awaken us
to new and deeper realizations...
for we gain insight
from the passing whisper of their wisdom.
Throughout our lives we are sent
precious souls...
meant to share our journey
however brief or lasting their stay
they remind us why we are here.
To learn...to teach...to nurture...to love.
Some people come into our lives
to cast a steady light
upon our path and guide our every step
their shining belief in us
helps us to believe in ourselves.
Some people come into our
lives to teach us about love...
The love that rests within ourselves.
Let us reach out to others
and feel the bliss of giving
for love is far richer in action
than it ever is in words.
Some people come into our lives
and they move our souls to sing
and make our spirits dance.
They help us to see that everything on earth
is part of the incredibility of life...
and that it is always there
for us to take of its joy.
Some people come into our lives
and leave footprints on our hearts
and we are never ever the same.
