I guess what I failed to say in the OP, is that I'm all for him striving to better himself and I don't mind much that he misses things we had planned to go to meetings now that he's decided to go again. I just want to talk to those in similar situations who can help me know how I can best help him while he is working the steps again and how I can get involved, though not an addict myself I would like to be involved in this process. I think I will try Alanon again thanks to the replies to my post and some other posts I've read this afternoon.