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"I blame you for driving 160 mph in the wrong lane with a bag over my head." Same logic (lack of it). Choose any other insane analogy.
No one can make me drink. No one can make me sober. It happens that I have a predisposition towards alcohol. That's not my fault, that's not your fault. I don't have a predisposition toward self immolation. That's not your fault nor mine.
You can make me happy or unhappy if I give you permission. Anything else is within me and has little to do with you.
warren