It is so so difficult isn't it?? However as others have said we are glad you have found SR. You will learn alot. It has been my saving grace.......
I am still learning but things are definately on the up. The more information you have about this dreadful disease the better. Once you are ready you can set your own boundaries.....this really works for me too and we are still very much together. I love my husband very very much - we have 3 small ones to consider and by setting my boundaries and stepping away from the chaos we are managing. He is still active in his addiction but togther we have made rules and boundaries and its definately helping :0)
Keep reading, keep posting and I wish you well. The support here from people who really really do understand is wonderful and to everyone here I am very very grateful. Their wisdom and advice is priceless - take what you need and leave the rest.
Wishing you well....all the best Phiz :0)