LMH,
You and I pretty much have the same story. I have been married for 10 months, together for 4 years. My H can go for months w/o drinking, and then go on a 7 day binge. The most recent binge, which was just a couple weeks ago was enough for me. I was at my wits end. I went to Al-Anon and it was so scary, but the best thing that I could do. I am not ready to leave my H either, and I had to do what is best for me. I have only been to 3 meetings, but have learned so much!