(((Tiredsotired))))
Please read the stickies on the top of the forum; continue to post and read the posts here; find the people here who have what you want and follow their lead -- they will be happy to share their experience, strength and hope with you.
You did not cause your husband's behavior; you cannot control it and you cannot change it. None of that is within your power.
Alanon or naranon meetings can help you learn how to live your life without reference to his codependency and his son's addiction. It is what you deserve. It is self love.
I look forward to getting to know you better as we both grow in our recovery.
Shalom!