I also agree with what has been said. You can't do more than is humanly possible, and you sound like you've got too much on your plate already. And by all means find a sponsor closer to your needs. A sponsor cannot help you if you don't get along well.
Congrats on your sober time and keep it up - the sobriety, that is, not the grueling schedule. Is there any help at all that could take some of the burden off you? Help with laundry, housework? Anything? Can your husband take on at least one task, say, laundry, or his schedule as hectic as yours?
If your husband is supportive of your sobriety then I would think spending time with him would be a good thing for your sobriety, not a bad thing. Don't stress yourself out any more than you can stand. Severe stress is not good for sobriety, especially not new sobriety.
Glad you're here!:ghug3