I ditto everything leviathon said. I got the pamflet on sponsorship off the web and gave it to my sponsor to read. We work together on the steps. She has a format for the steps that work for her, so we start there, and work out what works for me within the steps. I've discovered through this process that I have a lot of fear about expressing myself and she and I work on that.
I am currently very happily single with an adult son, so I have plenty of time for meetings. However we discovered that I needed to skip a meeting when I had the opportunity to spend time with others one on one or in a non-meeting setting. So I have set 3 specific meetings that I go to each week. I often go to more and I have missed an occasional specific meeting due to other commitments. It all seems to be working well for me. so that is my expereince so far this time around.