(((Offhegoes))),
I'm sorry you have been bombarded with so much anguish and disappointment. Almost like this is a man you don't even know. Perhaps this new information will help you in the start of taking care of YOU and getting your focus there, too. Saying a prayer for you this weekend, Off. Nobody deserves to be put through so much, sweetie. Stop reaching out to him if you can. It's apparent he is heading down a course that won't include you, and perhaps this is new information will help you to accept that choice.
I can't remember; are you seeing a counselor of your own? You need to take very good care of yourself now, Off. Take proactive steps toward self-care. Make that your new mission. Turn the rest over to your HP and to his.