Make your own life as joyful, productive, rewarding, fun, and meaningful. Nurture great relationships friends/family. Do all this no matter what hubby is doing.
Start building the fabulous life that you want. Live in gratitude of all that is good in your life.
Then your decisions might be based on what you are moving toward rather than what you are moving away from.
Sorry you struggle. I have learned there is no right and wrong choices I've made.
When I know better, I do better.