Originally Posted by
Shivaya 
The above is food for thought for me. My AH and I are having a very difficult time communicating (nothing new for us, he was always drunk and I just didn't have the desire/energy to fight with a drunk).
Every time we try to communicate, we end up in a huge argument. Definitely not productive communication. So, our plan is to go to marriage counseling to have a "mediator" in the room when we discuss "hot" issues.
Shivaya, it is IMPOSSIBLE to communicate with a drunk. Don't even try. When he's drinking, go off and do something that makes you happy. You have no idea how much better it feels when you just get on with your own life and leave the alcoholic on his own. It is so incredibly hard to do that, but the more you just do for you and not for them, you start getting the hang of it.
I'm not even ready for a mediator. I'd probably wind up telling the mediator to **** off, and that wouldn't be very constructive at all. lol