sorry, I hit post message too fast.
As long as he gets a reaction from you, he is going to keep this up. In his addict mind, ANY reaction (other than no reaction at all) makes him think he has a chance to keep pushing you until you're tired and give in to what he wants. I know it sounds crazy, but our minds don't make any sense when we're using.
My dad and I have gotten into arguements over the years, pretty heated at times. When I got locked up the 2nd time and he quietly told me "I won't get you out" it had a HUGE impact. I knew, without a doubt, that I had crossed a line and he had enough.
I'm really sorry he is pushing all your buttons, but I know that for me, when someone says something calmly, then walks away or hangs up the phone, I get the message really quick. It's not going to be easy, and it will probably take several times, but you really don't deserve this and he needs to realize that.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy