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A progression of recovery...
No recovery... can't be my fault so it must you your fault.
Starting in recovery... guilt and shame and self preservation has us pass it on because we don't yet know how to deal with it.
Growing in recovery...we start to accept our own issues.
thanks for this....
I can see the process in him.
he hated me and thought I drove him to take the drugs...
now he feels guilty to what he did to our marriage and me...
....who knows when he'll be able to accept it...he's unable to completely focus on recovery. he first thought about our marriage...and fixing that (which i never required him to work on at the moment) it didn't work....
then he threw himself into work as soon as he started IOP, working 14 hr days going to rehab then "trying" to work another shift after that. he finally came to his senses with that one...
NOW he's taking leave from work for rehab, but he wants to focus on selling the house and things that need to be done to it.
When is he going to realize he needs to just focus on rehab? it's like he's there but not there.
*sorry for the rant* I'm still reeling from all this.
I know i can only take care of me...but it still is frustrating to see him bang his head against a wall like that!