Hi Ragazza - I sometimes get that feeling to tell people to run from unhealthy relationships too - but then I remember how strong my denial was when I was in mine - heck, denial was getting regular workarounts at the gym!
If it wasn't with XABF then it would've been another unhealthy relationship. Through the relationship with XABF I learned that I had a problem that I needed to work on - my codependency. It was there before XABF and would still be there if I chose to change nothing.
The biggest demons in my life have been angels in disguise...