I'm not offended by your question. But the question itself makes the whole thing sound so simple and easy. Things are not so simple and easy when feelings are involved.
I wasn't married to my ex. We did have a house together - we still do, the stress of wondering what to do with it is making me lose sleep. Joint financial commitments, missed mortgage payments, I couldn't sort that on my own.
I still swear to my friends that "without the house I would have walked a LONG time ago...." but I'm starting to wonder whether I really would have.
This is a man I fell in love with, he obviously had redeeming traits as I would never have fallen for him to begin with, he was tender, loving, funny...
Then his drinking deepened and he turned into an abusive stranger. But I swore that that person is NOT him, it can't be.
I'd invested so deeply in this relationship, I'd invested time, love and money. I wanted to prove somehow I hadn't failed.
I still remember buying our house, the pair of us were both so full of hope with plans for the future. That still tears me up.