Ragazza,
I have a neighbor who is 10 years younger than myself, and whose husband is showing a lot of the behaviors that my AH did about as many years ago.
I share my experiences with her, and the things that I do today, to keep my sanity in this insane world of alcoholism.
That being said, I also share with her that I wish I would have known 10 years ago what I now know. And, even if I had that information way back when, can't say for sure whether or not I would have acted on it.
I am a very open person, and I don't mind sharing my life experiences with others. It's kind of like an alanon mtg., "take what you like and leave the rest". I don't give advice or tell people what to do, I just share what has/has not worked for me..
Hope this helps,
Shivaya