Certainly I understand what you are saying here. My beautiful sweet daughter is (was) involved with an abf. Her brother is an alcoholic and she has seen what it does to the women in his life. Inside I was screaming at her "YOU KNOW BETTER!" But as Freedom said.......everyone must walk their own path. As hard as it was for me to bite my tongue and watch her invest herself emotionally in a man whose first love is alcohol, I had to just keep it to myself.
She called me this morning and said that they have once again broken up. I wanted to jump around and do a dance........but I couldn't. Not when she was sobbing and hurting.
I understand your thoughts.......I have them too.......and it very hard to stand by and watch someone else make a terrible mistake. But it's their mistake to make.
gentle hugs