Thank you so much. To think about getting upset when mother nature calls made me realize that to get upset over soemthing you can't control is silly.
As far as telling him when I'm angry, I have tried... nicely, angrily, non-verbal, and it always turns to ........ "oh sure... you're angry with me because I'm sooooooo bad ... I've caused you sooo much problems.... I am nothing .. I've never done anything good for you, blah blah blah .... " (all this is said to me in a sarcastic way, not a caring way) So I avoid talking about my feelings if possible to avoid hearing these manipulations which cause me to feel "GUILTY" for making him feel bad.