Alcoholics will manipulate and try to make you think YOU'RE the problem. This is what they do, so they can continue to drink. Next time, you hear that you are a control freak, just know that it is not your loving significant other, but his alcoholism talking. I think of it as Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. If he was sober, you wouldn't be hearing any of this ********.
I've been told I'm no fun, controlling, and that if I didn't do (fill in the blank), then he wouldn't go off binges. Total BS. Don't believe a word of it. Keep on doing what you're doing. Focus on yourself and stay strong. You're right. He couldn't be more wrong. No matter what he says, don't listen to him.