I've heard the same things- that I'm a control freak, that I'm trying to change him, that al-anon is a cult, I've been brain-washed, I don't know what I'm talking about. . . how amazing that they are so alike! Luckily I don't buy into any of his crap anymore- and thank God I don't have to hear it. I finally have peace in my house.
You sound so strong Shivaya! Keep on trucking!