Thanks TC. That is exactly what I needed to know. I do feel like I'm investing emotion right now just because I feel so bad for him. I do still love him in some place in my heart. If nothing else, he's my kids' dad, ya know? I'm definitely not telling him what to do but I need to be careful of that as I made not drinking a condition of his return back in November when we first split up.
I know I need to continue down my own path and get my things in order. Only his actions (not his words which are lies 90% of the time) will show me that he's getting better.