Thanks TC. Yes, it is very hard to hear him hurting. Just hearing some of the stuff his dad said to him makes me want to whack his dad up side the head! He's just messed up and has no where to go...and no idea how to get there.
Okay, I'm glad I didn't mess up by telling him about a counselor and AA. I don't want to enable him or do anything to put myself back in the middle. It just feels impossible not to say something, anything that might help him.