Counseling and AA are good advice. I think it's perfectly appropriate to remind him of his options here.
He needs to find someone else to talk to about this stuff, and those are two excellent places to find listening ears.
It's hard to hear the A hurt, isn't it?
Strange, but even when they've screwed their life over and started in on ours, we still want to help out.
You have a kind heart - take good care of it!
-TC