Awesome post, Hmbld. Very well said. Congrats on your "new" outlook and the peace it is bringing into your lives
And I totally agree about following ALL the rules obediantly and without trying to add my own "twist" or plans. I stumbled into SR last December and found the substance abusers' forum at a most appropriate time (thanks, HP!) regarding my son's drug addiction. Because I had been through the experience of having a loved one in addiction (ex-alcoholic husband) I was very quick to read all the parents' stories and see my own situation. I proceeded from day one to follow all advice and trust that I was doing the best thing for my son in the long run by detaching and getting the focus back on myself. Life has been so much better since then!