Originally Posted by
hopeangel 
latee, thats great info on grief -thanks- its still hard for me to acknowledge that i am griefing a "loss" because i can't really imagine really losing him in my life and really having to grieve that loss????
And that would be the
denial part.
It is hard to see it when you're smack dab in the middle of it, though. The best thing you can do is just be gentle with yourself as you process the feelings. What I've learned is the best thing to do with emotions (also, the hardest thing to do) is just let them be. I am the kind of person who avoids feelings (especially the uncomfortable ones) by
doing something. I tell myself that I am doing something to resolve the situation, but in reality all I am really doing is trying to make myself
feel better. It's still really difficult to just sit with the feelings, but whenever I do manage it, I know it's the best thing I could have done. They pass, and once they do, you can take action that comes from clarity, not reaction that comes from emotion.
Give it a try.
L