Hi Ang, i decided that no contact was the only way for me. It's hard to do isnt it!! I found that after a few weeks, the urges to call him would decrease, eventually thoughts of him would become less painful, i still think of him now and then but with some compassion not anger.
If i was an alcoholic looking for recovery i would have to practice the same thing, i would have no contact with alcohol. I am codependant so i have to practice no contact with the alcoholic.
I have been alcoholic free for 4 months now.
Mair