Hi Savy, I can feel for you. It sucks to sleep separately from the person you love (and who's supposed to love you) but I guess that is a common trend amongst A's. My experience was the reverse; I didn't get locked out of the BR but rather my H literally spent an entire summer sleeping in his office (in another building on our property)- this was HIS choice, not mine. I cannot even remember all of the broken promises he has made, both drunk and sober, and now I am to the point where I take everything he says with a grain or more of salt. He would bitch so much about me wanting him to attend my family functions (his family lives far away and was highly disfunctional when he was growing up- his father was an A) that finally I stopped asking him to attend- I just pack up the kid and GO. Whenever I want to go somewhere, do anything of interest to me or our son, I just do it w/o my H because at least that way we get to do it. I just tell him (not that he cares all that much) hey, I want to go do this, I'm not gonna stop living MY life just because you stopped living yours- see ya later, don't wait up. You must feel very lonely and isolated and fed up- keep posting and find some diversions in your life to keep you from being buried alive in your A's misery...........you will find you have more strength than you think........God bless, MK