Doing that really did help me. Sounds odd but every time I even see a rubberband now, I remember "that's not my story". At the time, I was pregnant with the boys (twins). I had 2 miscarriages before having them and was terrified of losing one or both of them. I would pop that band religiously to remind myself that this is a new pregnancy and good things can happen as a result. To go even further, if I had not had those two miscarriages, I would not have had my two beautiful and amazing boys. I had to walk through that incredibly hard time but it brought me out on the other side.
I'm not so "recovered" that I remember this all the time, but sometimes you have to walk through some serious **** to get where you are meant to be. Again, hugs to you.