I love that much of our program is Just For Today. It sounds to me that, just for today, you will be able to come home to your house without it being filled with people. Just for today, your H might be cooking supper. Perhaps you can have a conversation with him to let him know how you feel about things, and perhaps you guys can come up with a compromise of some sort that allows you to be able to rest and relax after work AND one that allows him to spend time with his friends.
I'm sick of the roller coaster of stress and anger, but I haven't quite figured out how to get off. No, that's not right; I haven't quite mustered the courage to get off the ride. Sigh....
You'll know when it's time. You'll just know.
Hugs
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