Welcome, glad you found us. Although i wasn't married, i can relate as my exbf cheated on me while 6 months sober with his exgf. Like you, i don't know what to feel as he WAS sober when he cheated. I was the one that encouraged and supported his sobriety for that to have happened but like Lex said above, he was only abstaining and dry. Now i chalk it up to his bad behavior and poor choices. And yes, you don't deserve that treatment and DO deserve better. Stick around and read the stickis at the top of the page.