An ultimatum is external. No matter how well meaning, external forces are no match for addiction. That is the heartbreak of this disease. Our rational loved ones have little choice but to judge us by what we DO. We who are insane however, know that what we do often has little to do with what we feel. Our rational and regulatory brains are disconnected.
Amen, Warren. I agree that we have to do this for ourselves, but, at least for me, that is extremely difficult as I have spent a lifetime living for others at the expense of myself. I'm workin' on it tho'...