To understand that we are powerless in many areas, not just over "them and their drinking"
can be quite freeing and a major paradigm shift in the way we approach and live our life.
When I 1st went to al-anon upon learning my only son was an addict, it made no sense to me to work the steps, as I was not an addict. I was quite "powerful" or so I thought.
Thankfully, I stuck around long enough to work the steps and began doing the work necessary to transform my own life.
It really is like "erasing" the way we were programmed to think, and being free to see another way. YOU GET It. Yea, for YOU !!!