Originally Posted by
i4getsm 
I know I can't control him but I won't have him in my life if he continues to do this.
That is the crux of it, isn't it? And that is where the tough choices are.
Your boundaries will come naturally, when you distill things down and simplify what it is that you really want for your life, and your children's lives.
It's really very simple, but far from easy. ((()))
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