I am very sorry to hear this has entered your life, i as well am still new at this, as i am going through this with my wife. I have read alot of the info on this forum, and it helps, at this point anything you can do, to make your life better, you need to do. You came to a good place, a place where we all need something positive in our lives. Take care of yourself, don't try and figure everything out, i spent the first 3 days doing that, and in the long run, it just drove me nuts.