Sorry you are dealing with this. Others who have experience with this will probably be along. I hope you understand I am only saying this as something to consider, and in no way telling you what you should or shouldn't do, but maybe you should ask yourself how much you are willing to do to stop enabling him. I mention this because it seems that if he already broke your door, your safety might be at risk, and you could possibly have him removed. I know that sounds harsh, and to be honest, I'm not sure if I could ever do that...just thought I should put it out there. I know you worry about where he would go....are there any other options for him besides with you?