Originally Posted by
biocat 
I think I already know the answer, but I want some feedback.
Is being overly good just another manipulation tactic? My abf does it all - cooks, cleans, laundry, gets up with the baby (sometimes), and treats me like gold (I guess I am like gold in a way - pay all the bills). I think he does all that so I will overlook the drug use (he told me he was done) or at least feel guilty about questioning him "because he does so much for me".
Thoughts?
I wouldn't even call it a manipulation tactic, more like just something from the addict playbook.
Toby Rice Drews- "You realize that if you are wary, he'll notice it and point it out, and call you crazy for not being happy that he's being nice to you. "What's the matter with you now?" he yells at you.
He loves to act nice and put you on your guard, so that you'll look overreactive when you're wary."
Though Ms. Drews does call it a "manipulation tactic".
Good book, would highly recommend it.