Maybe it's just me...but I heard "I want the cash...I don't want it to go to the bills...I want the cash in hand".
You are not alone Cupicake. I had 'red flags' going off all over the place when I read your post Daisy Lady.
He's not in recovery, he is just looking for a way to get money to get high. Be very very careful.
Keep coming here and posting to let us know how YOU are doing. Have some things packed (including important paperwork) and stashed for a quick get-a-way. I suggest this because when a person 'goes back out' it's is like he never stopped at all. He starts at where he would have been.
I know some don't believe this but I have seen it too many times. And as his using escalates so will his verbal abuse and probably physical abuse will raise it' head also.
Continue to stick with your boundaries. Sounds to me like you have an excellent plan.
No you are not wrong. You did what you need to do for your sanity and serenity.
J M H O
Love and hugs,