What I heard is that your AH is feeling bad about himself, he's not working, etc. so he's going to lash out, and guess who's convenient! I'm sorry, because I can absolutely see how you got to the point where you called your parents. I can also see one day you will get to the point where you can walk away when he starts talking such nonsense and not let it get to you!
When I feel confused, chances are I'm being lied to and/or manipulated. Many have given me this "golden rule", and it works. I had to learn that meant any and all confusion! Not just on the "really insane" stuff, but anytime I got that look on my face - you know the one, What are you talking about? look! Time to walk away!
(((hugs)))