(((maria)))
Welcome to Sober Recovery, this is a wonderful place you've stumbled upon, and I'm so glad you found us!
I am the mother of 2 addict sons, one is 29, the other 34. The youngest is sober, the oldest...not so sober, and probably going to prison again...shortly. This will be his 3rd or 4th time, I seem to have lost count.
IMO, we have to let them assume the responsibility of their actions. For a LONG time, I enabled both of my sons by coughing up bail, bond money, and giving them money, among other enabling stuff. Little did I realize I was buying their drugs for them!
(I was really good at it!
)
If your son should go to jail, well...it's right where his Higher Power wants him o be. He'll have plenty of time to think about the course his life is taking, and he'll be fed, warm and dry.
May I suggest Alanon meetings for you? Believe me when I say those meetings saved my sanity!
Hugs,
and keep posting, we're all here for you...
Hold on, it's all going to be okay.