No neither my husband and I have gone to an naranon or alanon meeting. I know you are right but at this point I haven't had the energy to actually go to meeting and talk about.
When we first found out about the herion I went to a therapist for a few years and found that helpful. I felt strong and tried to stay avoid getting involved with his problems - although he always manage to drag us back to some degree.
We went one meeting a couple of years ago. I got very depressed because most of the people there had been struggling for years with their love ones addiction.
My cousin - who died at the age of 45 from complication related to years of chronic drug/etoh abuse put my aunt and uncle through living h*ll. They tried everything to help him but nothing ever changed.
I guess my biggest fear is that my life will be defined by my son's addiction. I know many of you are going through the same thing and I admire your determination.