When my daughter was younger and did not get what she wanted, she would sometimes use something that I did against me to my husband. It really hurt that things I told her in confidence would be used against me. The problem with keeping secrets is that they always come out. You may find that your husband has kept secrets from you or it just may be your son's way of trying to get back at you. Either way it is immature and very hurtful of him to do it the way he did. I hope that it is nothing except him trying to get back at you (even though that is bad enough). And I am sorry that he is doing this and that he is hurting you. Hugs, Marle