Hey Rob,
I am the wife of an ah. We have 2 kids and a very busy life. I work with ai kids, so I have an idea of the handful you are talking about.
Your family may be busy, but, they can support you, and that sounds exactly like what you could use right now.
As a spouse, the day my ah came to me and admitted his problem (that I already was MORE than aware of), and his desire for recovery/sobriety, was one of the best days in my life. Your wife and family might surprise you. Give them that chance. Don't you think they deserve your honesty?
Anyway, hang in there. You can do this.
discovery