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Tonight, I sit reading posts and answering as a parent. But tonight I also am dealing with a Non-Addict husband ( whom I am separated from), who is an emotional cripple, whom I often deal with the same way as my son:Very co-dependently.
But not tonight.
Tonight, I focused on me and my (very basic) needs. Didn't focus on fixing his emotional issues. Gave it back to him and his Higher Power
I came away feeling sad, disappointed, but strong and okay.
He might not get his issues figured out.
We might not make it.
But tonight, I am okay.
Tomorrow I could be fighting self-worth issues but tonight I did the "the next needed thing" which was letting him know he needs to figure himself out on his own. and tonight I am okay with that.
Once I had a counselor say if I had picked a Co-Dependant partner I wouldn't even know I had these issues. we would have spent our days focused on meeting each others needs. Hmmmm. not sure if it works that way.
Probably wouldn't be attracted to a fellow Codie right?

(Well, having someone focused on me for a change would be nice!!!)

Well here's to recovery!!!!
One Day at A Time
Cathy