Marle,
I glad this thread is helping you to come to terms with some things. Yes I really get ticked off when I tell her her lifestyle is killing me and she says that is my problem. They just don't realize what an negative impact all of this stuff has on mothers. How can it not........can anyone tell me that? I think you'd have to be kind of a zombie for this stuff not to affect you.
I know we are responsible for ourselves the same way they are responsible for theirselves, but really how many of us are not affected in some way?