"When I tell her that her lifestyle is killing me, she tells me that is my problem." She is right you know and doesn't that just **** you off at some level. My daughter has said the same thing to me and I have fought so hard to not accept that it is the truth. But our children were not put on this earth to make us happy and equally they were not put on this earth to "kill" us. They are responsible to themselves and we are responsible to ourselves. I know this is a hard concept to grasp because I still rail at the injustice of it. I really need this thread because I have forgotten some things that I need to look at again too. Hugs, Marle